Then everything is alright!
I am in a good mood today. Not just because it's Friday and my week is nearly done. This is not the usual: I hate where I am BLOG you may have become used to! I think I'm in a good mood today for little reasons. Some of which I will share with you here...
Yesterday, I got home to find my little sister and her 2 daughters at my house (unfortunately my brother-in-law has Swine Flu - Get well soon Stev!). Now, this happens quite regularly. But last night I enjoyed it immensely. Abigail was all smiles and giggles as always and Olivia sat on my knee and we went on YouTube and watched the Dell advert (Lollipop, Lollipop...). She loved it and when I started singing along she was just looking at me smiling. It was really nice. Those times are great and put things in perspective a lot.
I also have a new found friendship with someone at work who is really cool and I think we're getting to be good friends. Another bonus.
Having my little brother at home is quality too. The banter is second to none...I think we'll win the 'Christmas Couples Competition' (say that when you're drunk) at the house AGAIN this year!
One more thing I'd like to say is making me happy is that my Big Brother is in gainful employment again. Shift-work is a down-side but I've seen a change in him since the job. He's happier. if we can't take our joy from someone else's what can we get it from?!
I'd just like to give a big shout out to my Family and Friends. I've not been BLOGGING a lot recently and I've missed it. I hope you have too in a selfish way.
But let me leave you with a request: Share on the comments section somethings that make you happy. Please remember: No matter how small, if it makes you happy it's HUGE!
Have a good weekend everyone.
Friday, 30 October 2009
Friday, 23 October 2009
Oh my GOD!
It's been over a week since my last BLOG! This is quite frankly, un-acceptable! So I am taking a well earned break from the manual labour I have been engaged in to write a little something...
I've been trying very hard recently to focus on other people and try an help them in the way they help me without knowing it. Be it moral support, words of advice, a lift here and there. The usual matey stuff that seems insignificant but I know means a lot even if it's only a little.
In doing this I have discovered a few things about the people I have tried to help. They all react differently. To some it as amazing. "This person (me) is willing to do the little things that help...and boy, do they help!" Others have taken advice and it's not panned out so graciously thank and try to deal with repercussions and their feelings alone. The ones...or one in actual fact that has troubled me is the one about whom I am going to write.
The worst feeling I have experienced recently is close to rejection really. Nothing as major or defined as that though. Have you ever tried to do anything for someone you care a great deal about and been ignored? Have you ever dropped everything and gone to them because they asked? Have you ever been left to the side because something or someone else has come along? Have you ever felt second best ALL of the time?
This person has made me feel like that...on many occasions. I've vowed a few times now (one of my readers can vouch for that) to forget it. Leave this person to their own devices...I struggle to be honest. But now I feel like a fool. I've still tried recently. I'm concerned about the person...I offer help, I offer company...I get no response or a simple: "Thanks."
I don't know what to do with it anymore and advice is welcome from any of you. Even you who know about which I speak...even if it's the same advice I've heard before!
Randomness in my BLOGs remains. But at least I got a chance to do one.
Guys, I've missed you even if you haven't missed me. It's good to get it out. Have a great weekend...even if you have to work!
I've been trying very hard recently to focus on other people and try an help them in the way they help me without knowing it. Be it moral support, words of advice, a lift here and there. The usual matey stuff that seems insignificant but I know means a lot even if it's only a little.
In doing this I have discovered a few things about the people I have tried to help. They all react differently. To some it as amazing. "This person (me) is willing to do the little things that help...and boy, do they help!" Others have taken advice and it's not panned out so graciously thank and try to deal with repercussions and their feelings alone. The ones...or one in actual fact that has troubled me is the one about whom I am going to write.
The worst feeling I have experienced recently is close to rejection really. Nothing as major or defined as that though. Have you ever tried to do anything for someone you care a great deal about and been ignored? Have you ever dropped everything and gone to them because they asked? Have you ever been left to the side because something or someone else has come along? Have you ever felt second best ALL of the time?
This person has made me feel like that...on many occasions. I've vowed a few times now (one of my readers can vouch for that) to forget it. Leave this person to their own devices...I struggle to be honest. But now I feel like a fool. I've still tried recently. I'm concerned about the person...I offer help, I offer company...I get no response or a simple: "Thanks."
I don't know what to do with it anymore and advice is welcome from any of you. Even you who know about which I speak...even if it's the same advice I've heard before!
Randomness in my BLOGs remains. But at least I got a chance to do one.
Guys, I've missed you even if you haven't missed me. It's good to get it out. Have a great weekend...even if you have to work!
Wednesday, 14 October 2009
Ideas of home...
I found this somehow on Google. I forget what it was I initially searched for. This little statement troubled me because it set me apart from everyone else (aparently).
You see, I have a wonderful home. In fact I have many places I could call home and for that i am greatful. I don't think there is anything could phase me in one of these places.
I guess what I'm trying to say is: I don't think home eludes us (even if we are taking this home to mean heaven). I think it is well in grasp if we take it and seize it. They say home is where the heart is...Therefore my home is wherever I find one of you I call friend.
Tuesday, 13 October 2009
sticking it to the man
Well Guys, this is a risk. It could land me in proper trouble at work...so I believe.
What is life without risks though? Boring and Mundane I'd wager. I also pose to you a question which I would like you to feel free to answer in the comments if you will...
Is it possible for 'the man' tp monitor thousands of PCs and IP addresses and e-mail acount in one go and prove fruitful in their quest?
I'm hoping not...for if I have not this I have not my mind.
I'm looking forward to the chase. Will it be the end of me? Will I continue un-hindered in my quest to vent, entertain, challenge? Will I be here in one piece sitting at my desk writing once a day about the things that fill my mind? I hope so. I mean, it's not like I don't work my arse off and it's not like I actually take any of my breaks! This is MY quest, MY forum, and MY friends (and maybe some strangers) read this to keep up with me. I missed one day due to 'the man'...
Now I say: STICK IT!
What is life without risks though? Boring and Mundane I'd wager. I also pose to you a question which I would like you to feel free to answer in the comments if you will...
Is it possible for 'the man' tp monitor thousands of PCs and IP addresses and e-mail acount in one go and prove fruitful in their quest?
I'm hoping not...for if I have not this I have not my mind.
I'm looking forward to the chase. Will it be the end of me? Will I continue un-hindered in my quest to vent, entertain, challenge? Will I be here in one piece sitting at my desk writing once a day about the things that fill my mind? I hope so. I mean, it's not like I don't work my arse off and it's not like I actually take any of my breaks! This is MY quest, MY forum, and MY friends (and maybe some strangers) read this to keep up with me. I missed one day due to 'the man'...
Now I say: STICK IT!
Friday, 9 October 2009
Impressions and Opinions
Some people do NOT make a good impression. They INSTANTLY get your back up. It's no coincidence that they tend to be the people who like to thrust their opinions on you...as if you give a shit about what they think!
It was today when I was browsing my facebook that a 'colleague' of mine changed his staus to speak of Barrack Obama and his Nobel Prize. Personally I couldn't give 2 shits who won it and therefore I don't care what you think! However, this person is known for doing this. His status updates are more political than conversational (one of my readers has had...words with this person previously). He rubs people the wrong way with his self-satisfied holier than thou attitude and couple this with the smug smile he puts on all of the time and you've found yourself an arse.
Now, I know this BLOG might seem quite...hypocritical. But at least you don't HAVE to read this. As I have said before it gets my thoughts out..before I hurt someone usually! Facebook status about what the most powerful man in the world has or hasn't done, does and does not deserve...well you are MAKING me read them. They appear in my news feed. It's almost as if they want to spark a thought in my mind and for me to join them in their quest! I have something to say about this. A point to this statement of un-happiness...and here it is:
If you think you're more intelligent, tactical, important, or more worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize 2009...why didn't YOU win it?! Guys and Girls, thank you for reading. Somehow this makes me happier and I hope I don't bore or annoy you too much. You darling people are among those who DON'T make me feel like this and for that I will be eternally grateful!
Have you ever noticed how FUNNY chat-up lines are?! Does anyone actually use them?! Discuss!
It was today when I was browsing my facebook that a 'colleague' of mine changed his staus to speak of Barrack Obama and his Nobel Prize. Personally I couldn't give 2 shits who won it and therefore I don't care what you think! However, this person is known for doing this. His status updates are more political than conversational (one of my readers has had...words with this person previously). He rubs people the wrong way with his self-satisfied holier than thou attitude and couple this with the smug smile he puts on all of the time and you've found yourself an arse.
Now, I know this BLOG might seem quite...hypocritical. But at least you don't HAVE to read this. As I have said before it gets my thoughts out..before I hurt someone usually! Facebook status about what the most powerful man in the world has or hasn't done, does and does not deserve...well you are MAKING me read them. They appear in my news feed. It's almost as if they want to spark a thought in my mind and for me to join them in their quest! I have something to say about this. A point to this statement of un-happiness...and here it is:
If you think you're more intelligent, tactical, important, or more worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize 2009...why didn't YOU win it?! Guys and Girls, thank you for reading. Somehow this makes me happier and I hope I don't bore or annoy you too much. You darling people are among those who DON'T make me feel like this and for that I will be eternally grateful!
Have you ever noticed how FUNNY chat-up lines are?! Does anyone actually use them?! Discuss!
Thursday, 8 October 2009
Challenges
Today will be a short entry. I've been typing all day at work and my hurt. But...I could NOT leave it without an entry.
We are met in life by many challenges. How we deal with these challenges shapes the outcome. Face them head on and your strength and will power flourish in other aspects of your life. Shy away from the challenge and find yourself being a push over or being used by those around you. I would say being in the middle of the 2 is a great place to be.
Be scared by what life throws at you. It can be VERY daunting to see what you face. But, take a breathe. Get your head around the challenge before you turn to face it. Walk forward with your head held high and say: I can get through this. With help, I'm stronger than any problem you throw at me.
Take your challenges guys. Use them as stepping stones!
We are met in life by many challenges. How we deal with these challenges shapes the outcome. Face them head on and your strength and will power flourish in other aspects of your life. Shy away from the challenge and find yourself being a push over or being used by those around you. I would say being in the middle of the 2 is a great place to be.
Be scared by what life throws at you. It can be VERY daunting to see what you face. But, take a breathe. Get your head around the challenge before you turn to face it. Walk forward with your head held high and say: I can get through this. With help, I'm stronger than any problem you throw at me.
Take your challenges guys. Use them as stepping stones!
Wednesday, 7 October 2009
Methods of Stress Release...
Before we go any further expell all dirty and sordid ideas from your minds!
Done? Then I'll begin.
Do you remember being a child? All those years ago without a care in the world except what you may want/need. Simpler times. As you go through childhood and into young adulthood you start to aim your life towards the destination you wish to reach (or at least this is the idea) and you think that NOTHING is going to get in your way...until it does!
I, for example, wanted to be a fighter pilot in the RAF...pesky asthma got in the way of that! My point is it was my fantastical job idea. My goal. We all have our goals in life be they career minded or family orientated and we should try not to forget what we wished to be as children.
However, we can VERY easily lose sight of what we sought as a child. We let this world of ours, the world that turns no matter what happens to us in our seemingly small lives, dictate where we go. If you think about the journey you have taken to your current position in life and you're not happy with any waspect (even if you're ridiculously happy with the rest of it) you can become a slave to stress.
So, as the title suggests I have a suggestion to help aleviate some of the stress we find ourselves in. there are a few things I like to do:
Done? Then I'll begin.
Do you remember being a child? All those years ago without a care in the world except what you may want/need. Simpler times. As you go through childhood and into young adulthood you start to aim your life towards the destination you wish to reach (or at least this is the idea) and you think that NOTHING is going to get in your way...until it does!
I, for example, wanted to be a fighter pilot in the RAF...pesky asthma got in the way of that! My point is it was my fantastical job idea. My goal. We all have our goals in life be they career minded or family orientated and we should try not to forget what we wished to be as children.
However, we can VERY easily lose sight of what we sought as a child. We let this world of ours, the world that turns no matter what happens to us in our seemingly small lives, dictate where we go. If you think about the journey you have taken to your current position in life and you're not happy with any waspect (even if you're ridiculously happy with the rest of it) you can become a slave to stress.
So, as the title suggests I have a suggestion to help aleviate some of the stress we find ourselves in. there are a few things I like to do:
- Hit the punch bag
- destroy things...SO much fun it hurts!
- play my guitar and sing
- vent to my BLOG!
These are my adult stress releases. I'm sure we all have them. I have had another idea though. Let's revert to our child. The one Doctors refer to as 'your inner-child'. The idea is simple:
Play. Play with trians, play with cars, play with dolls for all I care! Don't look on it as a bad thing to want to simply play. Let go of the way you are expected to be and do what makes you happy! Even if it's not playing...I don't know: Paint by numbers! ESCAPE! And watch your stress drift away in your laughter.
Tuesday, 6 October 2009
Bar Room Psychology
Pschology is a noun that means: 'The science of mind and behaviour'
I think we are all Psychologists in one way or another. We change our behaviours to mirror that of our peers, we even use our skills of listening and talking to help our friends through difficult times and complex feelings.
I think the place we best do this is in the Pub. Have you notice how your words and feelings flow a little better with a shared pint with a friend - I use the work friend and not mate here on purpose. You see, I think there are differences in the 2. I wouldn't trust my mates with things I would trust my Friends with. - we often reach out in the pub. It's safer here as you can change the subject quickly and dance between serious and jovial to make he conversation easier to digest or cope with.
The reason I speak of this is that yesterday I was engaged in such an experience. Not even directly so to speak. I just know that after a day in the presence of 2 of my closest guys I felt, no I feel a lot better about things at the minute. An up-lifting experience of openness and opportunity was had and I hope the boys enjoyed it as much as I did!
I think we are all Psychologists in one way or another. We change our behaviours to mirror that of our peers, we even use our skills of listening and talking to help our friends through difficult times and complex feelings.
I think the place we best do this is in the Pub. Have you notice how your words and feelings flow a little better with a shared pint with a friend - I use the work friend and not mate here on purpose. You see, I think there are differences in the 2. I wouldn't trust my mates with things I would trust my Friends with. - we often reach out in the pub. It's safer here as you can change the subject quickly and dance between serious and jovial to make he conversation easier to digest or cope with.
The reason I speak of this is that yesterday I was engaged in such an experience. Not even directly so to speak. I just know that after a day in the presence of 2 of my closest guys I felt, no I feel a lot better about things at the minute. An up-lifting experience of openness and opportunity was had and I hope the boys enjoyed it as much as I did!
Friday, 2 October 2009
The 3 B's
I have discovered something AMAZING! The 3 B's. Have you ever been SO tired you could cry? So stressed you could scream, and in so much of a whirlwind emotionally you think you might drown?!
I have a CURE! This is all you need:
A Bath, a Beer, and a good Book.
Seriously, after footy last ngith (which was quality) I was knackered so...I 'drew' a bath (I love that phrase), popped open a beer and grabbed a book. I lay there and became COMPLETELY relaxed. I got out feeling refreshed, invigorated, and ready for the weekend! My issues, tiredness, and aches were washed away. Perfect.
So, I encourage you to try it. If you're not a Beer fan find your own replacement. Let's refer to it as a Bottle. You chose!
Happy Times people! Love it!
I have a CURE! This is all you need:
A Bath, a Beer, and a good Book.
Seriously, after footy last ngith (which was quality) I was knackered so...I 'drew' a bath (I love that phrase), popped open a beer and grabbed a book. I lay there and became COMPLETELY relaxed. I got out feeling refreshed, invigorated, and ready for the weekend! My issues, tiredness, and aches were washed away. Perfect.
So, I encourage you to try it. If you're not a Beer fan find your own replacement. Let's refer to it as a Bottle. You chose!
Happy Times people! Love it!
Sweet dreams are made of this...
If you're a friend of mine on facebook you will have seen that this morning my status was about the crazy dreams I've been having lately. I just wanted to tell you about 2 of them. One is kinda funny...the other...is bizarre!
The first one was around money and the lottery. I dreamt that one day at work a friend of mine ehre came up to me, kissed me on the cheek and handed me a winning lottery ticket saying: I just don't want this, you have it! So I took it and wiped out the debt (inc mortgages) of all of my 'family' (those of you in the family will know who you are and why it's in speech-marks). I then went on to build a chapel at the Briars, and buy Kev a car!
The 2nd is a little longer and SO random it's un-true! here goes:
It starts with me doing a night-prayer on St Peter's Square in Rome with this years 'seniors' on the Pilgrimage to Rome. We stand in a circle and pray that all we wish comes to fruition as per God's plan. It then cuts to New Years Day and the 'Audience with the Pope' Mass. As Benedict was processing down the aisle He stopped and turned to me (speaking in perfect English) and said: My son, why do you pray so hard? I told him it was my constant prayer that my Ministry in San Francisco coulod start and that my Visa comes quickly. He then invited me on the Sanctuaryu and asked me to lead the congregation in Prayer. So I did.
As we were processing back down the aisle he whispered to me and then to the Swiss Guard nearest who took myself, Msgr Mike, and the seniors to the Papal Apartments where we ATE with the Pope and then he called President Obama...ABOUT ME! I then spoke with Barack (we're obviously on first name terms by now) and he arranged for my passport (not my visa...he went straight for Citizenship) to be taken to my house for me to provide a photo. So obviously I did this and then I was free to come and go (and work) in America freely. He also paid for everything and cleared everyone in my 'familys' mortgages and debts.
I told you...MENTAL!
More to come later...
The first one was around money and the lottery. I dreamt that one day at work a friend of mine ehre came up to me, kissed me on the cheek and handed me a winning lottery ticket saying: I just don't want this, you have it! So I took it and wiped out the debt (inc mortgages) of all of my 'family' (those of you in the family will know who you are and why it's in speech-marks). I then went on to build a chapel at the Briars, and buy Kev a car!
The 2nd is a little longer and SO random it's un-true! here goes:
It starts with me doing a night-prayer on St Peter's Square in Rome with this years 'seniors' on the Pilgrimage to Rome. We stand in a circle and pray that all we wish comes to fruition as per God's plan. It then cuts to New Years Day and the 'Audience with the Pope' Mass. As Benedict was processing down the aisle He stopped and turned to me (speaking in perfect English) and said: My son, why do you pray so hard? I told him it was my constant prayer that my Ministry in San Francisco coulod start and that my Visa comes quickly. He then invited me on the Sanctuaryu and asked me to lead the congregation in Prayer. So I did.
As we were processing back down the aisle he whispered to me and then to the Swiss Guard nearest who took myself, Msgr Mike, and the seniors to the Papal Apartments where we ATE with the Pope and then he called President Obama...ABOUT ME! I then spoke with Barack (we're obviously on first name terms by now) and he arranged for my passport (not my visa...he went straight for Citizenship) to be taken to my house for me to provide a photo. So obviously I did this and then I was free to come and go (and work) in America freely. He also paid for everything and cleared everyone in my 'familys' mortgages and debts.
I told you...MENTAL!
More to come later...
Thursday, 1 October 2009
Beauty...
They say that beauty is skin deep...of course the people who say this are all ugly with shit personalities! Beauty is everywhere and in every aspect of life. I hope to illustrate this point today in order to change a friends view of themselves (you know who you are)!
There are many things to look at every day and see beauty. Even if you're not happy where you are, you can loopk around and see wonderful things. An attractive colleague smiling at you, a person sending you a txt that instantly makes you smile, a clear sky, an opportunity. If we are willing to see beauty in other things and other people why do we find it so hard to see beauty in ourselves?
A friend of mind...in fact a few of my friends really...are artistic and amazingly creative. They can see things a s beautiful and create things that are beautiful. One friend in particular is rather troublesome though. She creates AMAZING things and then rips them to pieces in an instant. She makes head-way with her 'self-image' and 'pma' and then reckons she'll never find love etc...she is nothing short of annoying at times! I will provide an example:
There's this guy. She RE-HE-HEALLY likes this guy. She chats to him, she even flirts a little (although she'd never admit this) and he flirts back...but she doesn't see that she has a chance with him. Can you see where my frustration comes in?!
The only reason I write this is because she wasn't happy with my Blogs recently. I've become a bit moany which I can see so I apologised and she suggested I write about her 'un-requited' love. So instead I write about Beauty and tell her:
You are beautiful and you have a matching personality. If he doesn't say 'Yes' when YOU ASK HIM OUT...he is a fool and not worth it.
If we can see things around us that take our breathe away and make us think: WOW! Look at yoursleves and realise that, even though we are our biggest critics, we should dig down and see that the most beautiful thing in our lives is ourselves. If we struggle to see it (and we no doubt will) we should listen to the beautiful people we make our friends. Is that not the reason we have them?! Is their personalities not the reason we chose them? Listen to your friends! You are all wonderful!
That had no order to it at all did it?!
There are many things to look at every day and see beauty. Even if you're not happy where you are, you can loopk around and see wonderful things. An attractive colleague smiling at you, a person sending you a txt that instantly makes you smile, a clear sky, an opportunity. If we are willing to see beauty in other things and other people why do we find it so hard to see beauty in ourselves?
A friend of mind...in fact a few of my friends really...are artistic and amazingly creative. They can see things a s beautiful and create things that are beautiful. One friend in particular is rather troublesome though. She creates AMAZING things and then rips them to pieces in an instant. She makes head-way with her 'self-image' and 'pma' and then reckons she'll never find love etc...she is nothing short of annoying at times! I will provide an example:
There's this guy. She RE-HE-HEALLY likes this guy. She chats to him, she even flirts a little (although she'd never admit this) and he flirts back...but she doesn't see that she has a chance with him. Can you see where my frustration comes in?!
The only reason I write this is because she wasn't happy with my Blogs recently. I've become a bit moany which I can see so I apologised and she suggested I write about her 'un-requited' love. So instead I write about Beauty and tell her:
You are beautiful and you have a matching personality. If he doesn't say 'Yes' when YOU ASK HIM OUT...he is a fool and not worth it.
If we can see things around us that take our breathe away and make us think: WOW! Look at yoursleves and realise that, even though we are our biggest critics, we should dig down and see that the most beautiful thing in our lives is ourselves. If we struggle to see it (and we no doubt will) we should listen to the beautiful people we make our friends. Is that not the reason we have them?! Is their personalities not the reason we chose them? Listen to your friends! You are all wonderful!
That had no order to it at all did it?!
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